So today I got a hell of a lesson in Jew Guilt, as the title of this post suggests. My mom, dad, and I were talking about people who aren't self aware, who don't realize how what they do and say comes off to others around them. I was saying that I can be a pain sometimes, but at least I'm aware that I can be a pain. My mom was saying that my grandma (her mom) does not. We all agreed. Then I said that mom is partially aware. This is where the trouble began.
Mom: What do you mean? I know when I'm wrong!
Me: You may be aware of it, but I never know that. For example, you never apologize when you're wrong.
Mom: Who do I have to apologize to? What do I have to apologize for? For taking care of you, for buying you things, for cleaning the house, for making food?
Me: No, but there are times when you are wrong, yes?
Mom: Yes, there are times when I am wrong.
Me: And I would just appreciate it if you admitted that you were wrong during those times.
Mom: Why do I have to apologize to you?! Ok, I'm sorry for the next 100 years of wrong things I do! But were you right when you yelled at me last week? Did you apologize?
Me: We aren't talking about me now, we're talking about you. Why are you turning it on me?
Mom: Well, I want to talk about you!
Me: This is ridiculous, why can't we just have a normal conversation? You said that you do things that are wrong sometimes, and I'm just asking for you to apologize when you realize that you did or said something wrong.
Mom: I'm sorry that I'm your mother!
--more going around in circles--
Me: Oh my god, you're crazy, this is nuts, I can't talk to you, it's like talking to a 2 year old!!!
Mom: You're nuts! You're like talking to a 2 year old!
And I stormed out. Granted I probably shouldn't have yelled at her and left, but it really is impossible to talk to her sometimes. And the worst part is, doesn't she realize that in this conversation, she was doing the EXACT thing that the conversation was about?!?!
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